Trauma refers to experiences—whether sudden or long-lasting—that overwhelm our sense of safety, leaving lasting impacts on how we think, feel, and relate to ourselves and others. Trauma isn’t defined by the event alone, but by how it affects your nervous system and sense of wholeness.

Examples of trauma can include things like unexpected loss, accidents, or natural disasters; ongoing stress such as childhood sexual abuse, emotional neglect , difficult relationships; or experiences of assault, discrimination, or systemic injustice.

A trauma-informed approach recognizes that healing happens in relationship, at your own pace, and with attention to safety, choice, and empowerment. Therapy provides a compassionate, safe space where you can gently explore the impact of trauma at your own pace, reconnect with your resilience and inner resources, and gradually build a greater sense of grounding, self-trust, and connection to yourself and others.

It’s not uncommon to feel more emotionally raw or vulnerable at certain points in therapy—especially as you begin to slow down and sit with things that were once hidden away. This doesn’t mean therapy isn’t working; quite the opposite actually. It makes so much sense that as you unearth different memories or emotions that it could be overwhelming. That is my role as your therapist, to help guide the way and walk alongside you as you increase your capacity to be with such painful experiences.

As we move through this together, we’ll move at a pace that feels okay for you. You’ll always have choice in what we explore, with an aim to help reconnect you to your most sacred asset- yourself. Through rebuilding your connection to your self and your wounded parts, you will start to notice a shift. Therapy isn’t about pushing through—it’s about honoring what your nervous system needs in order to heal.

You don’t need to have the words. We can begin with sensations, memories, or even just a feeling that something is there. We’ll move gently, in a way that honors your experience—spoken or not.

That’s understandable—and painful. Not all therapy is the same. It might not have been the right fit or the right depth. If you’re here now, something in you still has hope.

The therapeutic relationship is at the heart of healing. If for any reason I’m not the best fit, I will support you in finding someone who is. I encourage my clients to be open with me about their needs so we can build a strong, trusting connection.

Grief is an existential, emotional, and deeply intimate experience. There is no “right” way to grieve. Often, those around us see our pain and feel helpless—leading them to say things that, though well-intentioned, can feel dismissive or hurtful. This can leave us feeling even more alone and confused.

Grief is sacred. And it can also be unbearably painful.

Some common traumatic grief reactions include:

• Intense longing or yearning that feels physical or unrelenting

• Intrusive thoughts about the loss or the circumstances around it

• Avoidance of reminders or painful memories

• Guilt or self-blame, even when it doesn’t make sense

• Anger or rage—toward yourself, others, or even the person who died

• Disconnection from others or feeling like no one understands

• Numbness, shock, or dissociation

• Changes in sleep, appetite, or energy

• Difficulty concentrating or remembering things

• A sense that the world is no longer safe or meaningful

• Spiritual confusion or existential crisis

• Feeling like time has stopped, or that life has split into “before” and “after”

All of these reactions are completely normal responses to such a tremendous loss. There is nothing wrong with you.
Together, we can turn toward your grief—and slowly over time build a relationship with it.